Safe Dating Advice

Meeting new people in college or grad school is exciting, but it also requires caution.

Whether it's your first match or an in-person date, remember: your safety always comes first.

Although we can't control other people's actions, there are steps you can follow to enjoy Umatch in a safer and more relaxed way.

Online Safety

Don't send money or bank details

Even if someone says they're going through an emergency, don't send money via transfer or any other means.

Never share information such as passwords, verification codes, or card details.

Protect your personal information

Don't reveal your dorm, apartment, or housing address, nor your university routine (such as class or internship schedules).

If you have children, avoid sharing information about them, even if it seems like a casual conversation.

Keep conversations on Umatch

While getting to know someone, prefer exchanging messages within Umatch.

This helps maintain safety and allows you to report any suspicious behavior.

Be careful with distant profiles

Be wary of people who claim to study at your university but are "traveling" or "stuck" somewhere else and ask for financial help.

If the person avoids video calls or in-person meetings, it could be a scam.

Report any suspicious behavior

Examples of situations that should be reported:

  • Requests for money or financial favors
  • Fake profiles or profiles of minors
  • Offensive messages or harassment
  • Inappropriate behavior at parties, academic events, or off-campus

In-Person Meeting Safety

Don't rush

Exchange plenty of messages before scheduling a date.

If possible, have a video call first to confirm who the person is.

Choose busy locations

Prefer coffee shops, bars near campus, cultural events on campus, or public places in the city.

Avoid initial meetings at dorms, student housing, or apartments.

Tell someone about your plans

Tell a friend or classmate where you're going and with whom.

Keep your phone charged and with signal.

Control your transportation

If possible, go with your own transportation or use ride-hailing apps.

This way, you can leave at any moment if you don't feel comfortable.

Know your limits

Alcoholic beverages and other substances can affect your perception.

At college parties, refuse pressure to consume more than you want.

Watch your drinks and belongings

Never leave your drink unattended at parties or bars.

Accept drinks only from bartenders or servers.

If you don't feel right, leave

It's 100% acceptable to end the date early if something seems off.

If you're at a campus event, look for security or peers.

Travel and LGBTQ+ Community

If traveling for conferences, exchanges, or academic weeks, research the laws and safety at your destination — especially if you are part of the LGBTQ+ community.

In risky locations, consider hiding your profile on Umatch.

Sexual Health and Consent

Protect yourself

Use condoms and, whenever possible, stay up to date with HPV and hepatitis vaccines.

Know your status

STIs don't always show symptoms.

Get tested regularly at your university health center or nearby clinics.

Talk about sexual health

Before getting physically involved, talk openly about testing and protection.

Consent is essential

Consent must be clear, continuous, and can be withdrawn at any time.

If the person is under the influence of alcohol or drugs and cannot consent, do not proceed.

Support Resources in USA

  • Police / Fire / Medical: 911
  • Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988
  • Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
  • RAINN – National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
  • SAMHSA Helpline: 1-800-662-4357

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